Friday, December 3, 2010
Marriage is a disaster on the very first night for a chaste woman. It is a common belief that men have decreed that their women must be pure and virginal.
I have always thought of succeeding. Never thought of any way by which I may not be able to achieve my target. It is such good to be successful in every walk of your life. What I am today I owe it to the men who came in my life. Starting from my father and soul brother, they have indeed constructed me and built a very strong heart in me. They have discouraged me in the wrong things they found but very much supported the things that they very convinced of. I owe a lot to them. They are indeed the pillars of my success. I don’t know what I could have done without them.
Well getting to the topic I want to confess certain ill truths I have noted. I always thought why my brother didn’t cook or do all the chores of the house. He was one of family too. Then why was he treated with such honour? Nor was he earning that time that he was full of responsibilities or anything of that sort. He just used to enjoy and see others work for him. Isn’t this a common scene in almost all the Indian households?
I learnt a lot through men. Their behaviour towards a girl like me indeed brought the woman out of me and changed my perception towards men altogether. At first, I believed they were just born to dominate the weaker sex and women to obey them. But slowly I discovered that it is the other way round instead. Men are there just to hear a woman’s say. Women can indeed dominate men in moderation. No woman can think of dominating her partner all her life. There are chances to be given where women are pampered by the husbands or boyfriends where they have their say.
Then I want the heads to be turned over here. Considering a typical household when a man and a woman after a long tiring day, return to their den, the woman is expected to cook, clean up the house after what all is leftover, wash dishes, clean up the kitchen, see what the kids are doing and if they have slept or not (if there are any), and then return to her house of slumber. But wait that’s not enough, she being a woman, who is every now and then considered an object of pleasure, is forced to please her better half and only then dose off. This is the life of a woman. I hope I don’t have to live like this one in future.
I never conclude men are at fault. They are indeed adapted to what women have set for them. Women have primarily taken a man just to be her lord and her as his servant. They serve them unconditionally.
They no longer exist as individuals but as mere objects of pleasure.